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First Day of Life

Today, Gryphon was introduced to the world. He was born at 4:50 a.m., weighing in at 7 pounds, 20 inches long, and perfect in every way possible. I am a very proud Dad to say the least. I also have two wonderful step daughters who play sports and excel in all they do. I love them to death, but there is something about having your own child. It is a sense of pride. I am a older father, as I will be 48 in December, but I am in great shape considering. I take care of myself because I want to be here for him and my family for many years to come.

My wife is the most incredible woman on the planet. She survived this entire process with minimal damage to her body. She is my support system and my best friend. I am truly amazed at who she is and all she has accomplished. As I watched Gryphon being born, I became overwhelmed with emotion. Do not get me wrong, I have loved this entire process, but to see this tiny human, who is a part of you and your significant other, it is a different kind of emotion. I am responsible for his success and failures. As I held him in my arms, I promised him I would not fail him, and I will always lead by example in all I do. Every parent has an obligation to their child to be the best example they can be.

What did I learn today: today is a new beginning not just for my child, but it is one for me as well. I want him to always know how much I love his mother, how much I love him, how to be responsible and respectful to others, and how to be humble. Just as my wife makes me a better person, this tiny human will do the same.

Funny things about today: I learned he has the same eye roll and sarcastic grimace as I do. When he took his first poop, well lets just say, I am glad we have a lot of wet wipes!

In the end, everyday is an opportunity, and it is up to you what you will do with it. Seize the day, learn something so you can be a better you and share it with others. Never take tomorrow for granted because you never know when it will be your last. Stop procrastinating, organize your life, put your significant first, and lead by example.

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Think Before You Speak

Many times, it is easy to blurt out things without ever taking the time to think about what you are getting ready to say. When emotions fill the air, our inability to rationally think causes us to have diarrhea of the mouth. The words that follow makes us feel like a super hero for a few seconds as we deflect words from the other person that make us cringe. What we should realize is there are times when words of positivity and appreciation are the better route to take.

Arguing is nothing more than two people showing how ignorant they are to one another. Even when you know you are right, there is something about the whole process that is undeniably inept. Men tend to be worse at it than women, but it does work both ways.

As I sit here writing this piece, I cannot believe how many times I wasted my energy and time having an argument. Most of the time it is over something silly, but there are times I want my feelings to be heard. In contrast, some believe it is healthy to argue. I tend to agree if it builds trust in the relationship by allowing one another to completely express their thoughts and emotions without ridicule or put downs. When this occurs, the relationship grows, and it brings two people closer. The problem is that most relationships do not allow for this to occur.

In the end, whatever you decide, just make sure you argue in a manner that is beneficial to all parties involved. It is easy to let your emotions take over, stop listening, and throw out as many put downs as possible. That attitude and those actions are detrimental to the relationship. If you truly care, take the time to listen to one another, and engage in a conversation where you leave feeling like you accomplished something together.


The Reality of Death

No one knows when they will take their last breath, but when death comes it brings an outpour of mixed emotions. Some want it to be a celebration, but often, it comes when we least expect it. Many people are fortunate enough to live a lifetime of experiences, but there are many times when people are taken without the opportunity to say goodbye.

Grief is a fickle thing, especially when someone leaves this world much younger than they should, leaving families stricken with the lose of a loved one. I cannot imagine living without my wife. I know we are not immortal, but the pain of losing her is something I never want to experience.

My best friend was 39 years old when he died. He was the only person who truly understood me. He had a way of getting along with almost anyone he met, and he was a person who loved and fed off competition. So, I took his death very hard.

Today, my wife had to experience something similar. A mentor or hers died very young, leaving behind a wife and child. He was someone who took the time to look after his people. He and his wife went the extra mile, even when they didn’t have to do so. It makes it even harder when good people are taken to soon. He will be missed by many people.

I do not like seeing my wife in pain. It hurts me as it would anyone else who loves their spouse with all their heart. We all deal with death differently, but it is always hard to find the right words when someone dies. We must look back on the time we had, appreciate those experiences, and take the emotions and feelings back to our family. Death shows us just how fragile life really can be, and it reminds us to love more, show more patience, and embrace our family even more.  Family is the foundation of our lives. Kiss and hug them like it is the last time because when you leave the house or go to bed, you may never get the opportunity to speak to them again.


A little white lie is still a lie…… it hurts.

So… I screwed up. My wife and I are trying to have a baby, and I had to get some testing done at the Urologist. Now as you know, I love my wife dearly, she is my world, and I would never hurt her on purpose. Well, I f#%k#% up. I paid $250 for my initial fertility consult and couldn’t afford the lab work because it costs so much. At that moment I did not have insurance to pay for it. She asked about it and I told her they took blood when they didn’t.

This week my insurance kicks in and for my second visit all fertility lab work will be done. Hopefully they will have the results before the appointment. I have to go by and pick up a kit.

I would never cheat on my wife as I love her and the kids more than my own life. I have not been dishonest about anything and I am very proud of that fact. This tiny white lie is still a lie no less. It hurt her a lot. I know I messed up, but I did it bc I was ashamed I couldn’t afford the test until I had my insurance. This baby means so much to us both and I just wanted to do more than I could. We have been trying for a few months. My heart was in the right place but the actions were wrong. I admitted to it and accepted responsibility for it. I only hope she will see what I was trying to do.

So my point is this, no matter how insignificant it may be, or how embarrassed you might be, there is never a reason to tell the smallest of lies. Always, always be honest. Lesson learned.

As always, to my wife and kids, I love you. I made a huge error in judgement. I was an idiot, now the world knows as well. Thank you for making me better.


Today….

Today might be the last day you are on this earth. Make sure you tell your significant other how much you love them, appreciate them, and adore them. Look them in the eyes with love and passion, and tell them how much they mean to you. Never be afraid to share your emotions. Kiss them passionately, wrap your arms around them, and do not let go. Rekindle the relationship, and remember why you love them. The next minute, hour, or day is not promised.


The Simple Things

Stef sent me a picture tonight after she got her hair done. It was one of the most loving and beautiful pictures yet. I fell in love with her all over again. It is the simple things in life we seem to forget to appreciate. A touch on the shoulder, holding hands in the car, the way she gets undressed, the way she brushes her teeth, eats her food, her walk, when she drops gas bombs in the bed, or holding hands after feeding the animals to name a few. 

Dale Partridge believes men need to be men, not boys, step up and love your wives and always fall back in love with them every day. Let them know you adore them. 

In the end, simple really is not simple. They are the most complex, speechless,  and humbling things we encounter. Suck them up, breathe, and adore them. 

To the love of my life. Thank you for being the most strong and courageous woman I have ever known. Thank you for loving me. I will always take care of your heart. As always, I love you….


Controlling Relationships more thoughts..

Stef gave me some good feedback and I want to add to it. I always asked who, what, when, where, why, and how. I didn’t realize it was breaking her down emotionally and making her a miserable person. I never knew saying don’t do this or that was so bad. Most concerns are not really concerns because they are our own insecurities. 

I love her very much, and my actions reflect those changes I promised her. She is seeing a man on a mission everyday. I am finally her rock. She can count on me to love her the right way and take care of her and the family emotionally and financially. Thank you my love.


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