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Fireproof

Yesterday showed me just how wrong I have been, when I thought I was actually right about everything. I genuinely thought in my mind I was doing everything, everyday the right way. I am faithful, loyal, committed, passionately in love with my bride, and I always do whatever I can for her in order to take the burden off her shoulders. Boy, was I wrong! Relationships take work, time, and commitment. Until you uncover the root cause of the issues you as an individual are facing, you will continue to have problems. I never thought I was the one who had problems. I just needed her to listen to my concerns. This was the wrong approach to take.

 

We watched Fireproof as a family. If you care at all about your marriage or your relationship, then it is a movie to watch. Moreover, there are online resources to utilize to help you in this journey. It is a very emotional process, and it makes you face tough issues, but is it the best thing out there for truly understanding how to love one another. It is for serious people who genuinely care about their significant other and their relationship. This is something you can do together, so throw your heart and soul into it, and never look back. I will always “study” her, and I will always do what I can every single day to show her how much I love her. The movie showed me that I never knew how to love myself, so how could I love her properly, if I couldn’t understand how to do so?

 

It is about faith and religion, and its application is geared towards whatever higher being you believe in. Additionally, I realized I cannot shoulder everything. I need guidance. While I thought I was doing everything in my power to meet her needs, I was failing in some aspects which were sensitive for us to discuss and probably the most important. Open and honest communication is necessary in any relationship, so put your pride aside, watch, actively listen, and put a plan into action together. This is a lifestyle change, not just a fix. You will see that both of you will reap the rewards by loving and growing with each other more than you ever thought possible.

 

As in all things I do, thank you for honey for loving me, being patient, and for all you do. This is for you and girls.

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Interpersonal Conflict

There are times in life when we question our purpose on this planet. Some choose to accept the path they are on and other choose to change it. Right or wrong we are the only ones that control our own destiny. The constant internal struggle is a tough thing to break through. It is our culture, history, background, and personal experiences that help navigate us through life. It is an interesting thing to sit and think about. Every person on this earth sees things from a different perspective. It is that perspective that provides a lens or the clarity to move forward.

 

We all have made mistakes, we have all disappoint people close to us, we have all faced adversity, and we have had to dig deep within ourselves, and put one foot in front of the other and push through the day. Some days it may be hour by hour, minute by minute, or even second by second but you push through it.

 

Many of us are content with the lives we are living because it feels comfortable. I am just as guilty as anyone. At some point we have to make ourselves better, we have to decide what we are going to do with the life we have been given. What are the priorities of your life? What will make you happiest? Then, you surround your self with the support system you need to get it done. Not everyone will agree with you, it is ok because it is your life, and you are the only one that can live it.

 

If there is something in your life you are questioning, I hope you will think about these words from an unknown Navy SEAL Instructor:

 

A man can only give up in two ways: he gives up or he dies.  As long as you have single pulse or a single breath in your body, do not quit. To quit means to give up, to give up on your dreams, to give on your family, to give up on yourself, to give up on your goals, and to give up on your team. It means you have decided to surrender to everything in life you have ever wanted to be.

 

The thing that helps define you is not your clothes, your home, your money, or the items you own, it is the person that shows up when life gets hard, when you are tired, and when everything looks like it is going against you. How you show up when everyone needs you the most is what life is all about, and it will define the kind of person you really are in life.

 

In conclusion, the interpersonal conflict we struggle with is something we all deal with everyday, but we have to look past our own selfishness and become selfless. In no way am I saying your dreams, goals, and aspirations should come second or third, but I am saying those things will not define you as a person. When others speak of your accomplishments and who you are as an individual, they will remember how you showed up for those around you.

 


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