Happy Anniversary My Beautiful Bride!

At the time of this writing one year ago today, I married my best friend. Today, we celebrate our first wedding anniversary. She is more beautiful than ever, and I reaffirmed my vows to her.

The year has flown by, but along the way we have learned so much about one another. She makes me a better man. I will not fail her, I will not let her down, and I will always support her to the best of my ability.

Life is very short, but I look forward to the journey of life I have been so fortunate to have experienced with her. Each day brings excitement, joy, and happiness. Today is a time of reflection and joy. To my beautiful bride… thank you for all you do, thank you for being such a strong woman, and thank you for loving me. It is an honor to call you my wife, and I will love and protect your heart as I know it is a privilege you have given me.

Cheers my love!!!! To another year and a life time to go…. I love you.

The Reality of Death

No one knows when they will take their last breath, but when death comes it brings an outpour of mixed emotions. Some want it to be a celebration, but often, it comes when we least expect it. Many people are fortunate enough to live a lifetime of experiences, but there are many times when people are taken without the opportunity to say goodbye.

Grief is a fickle thing, especially when someone leaves this world much younger than they should, leaving families stricken with the lose of a loved one. I cannot imagine living without my wife. I know we are not immortal, but the pain of losing her is something I never want to experience.

My best friend was 39 years old when he died. He was the only person who truly understood me. He had a way of getting along with almost anyone he met, and he was a person who loved and fed off competition. So, I took his death very hard.

Today, my wife had to experience something similar. A mentor or hers died very young, leaving behind a wife and child. He was someone who took the time to look after his people. He and his wife went the extra mile, even when they didn’t have to do so. It makes it even harder when good people are taken to soon. He will be missed by many people.

I do not like seeing my wife in pain. It hurts me as it would anyone else who loves their spouse with all their heart. We all deal with death differently, but it is always hard to find the right words when someone dies. We must look back on the time we had, appreciate those experiences, and take the emotions and feelings back to our family. Death shows us just how fragile life really can be, and it reminds us to love more, show more patience, and embrace our family even more.  Family is the foundation of our lives. Kiss and hug them like it is the last time because when you leave the house or go to bed, you may never get the opportunity to speak to them again.

So let me tell you about my wife….

Relationships and marriage are one of the most frustrating and rewarding things anyone can put them selves through if BOTH of you are completely devoted to one another. It takes work, understanding, patience, love, honesty, passion, forgiveness, and commitment.

I want to share my story because I hope it will help others see in their significant other / spouse, what I see in my wife.

It is not easy. I have given up so much in my life because those things were no longer my priority. Instead, I put my wife and kids first. Why? Because I want to be the example for others to follow, and more importantly I never want to let her down.

My wife is the most beautiful woman on this planet in my eyes, inside and out. I am proud of her accomplishments and for the ones she will get in the future. She is the only person I have ever worked so hard for because it is important she knows the family comes first. When she hugs me it brings me to tears because I have never felt anything like her embrace. When we are apart, I close my eyes and I can trace every inch of her face and body just as if she was with me. I have never truly loved myself until she showed me I could. She showed me the right way to love her, what true happiness is, and how to nurture our marriage. I never knew what true love was until her.

She is a strong willed and empowered, and has type A personality. We have are issues just like everyone else, but I will never quit on her. I will never hurt her. I will ALWAYS love her and give her all of me in this life and the next.

So you see, my wife is incredible. She is probably a super hero and she hasn’t told me yet! Seriously, the point is this. When things start to go south, work through it, think about all the reasons you love them. We all have bad days, but we depend on one another to help us get through it. Team, always, always, always be a team.

To my beautiful bride I love you. Thank you for loving me.


Fear is a very powerful emotion. It can completely shut you down, and it can cause a wide variety of unnatural emotions and visions in our heads.

Why are we fearful? In my case, it is because I do not want to lose the most important thing in my life… my wife. I try my hardest to be the very best I can be each day for her. I have never loved anything more than my wife, including myself.

In order to over come those fears we have to communicate our emotions in a constructive manner. Express your concerns, but do it in a manner that is beneficial to everyone. If you explain your thoughts and why you are fearful, most of the time it is only because we allow things to get into our heads without reason.

The mind is a very powerful thing, and it can do more harm than good if we let it. In everything I do, I want my wife to be a part of it. All major decisions have to be agreed on by both of us. Value each other’s opinions, work together as a team, and it will make a stronger relationship.

In the end, relationships take work, so listen to each other. Do whatever is necessary to remove those fears, but be honest about your emotions. My wife thought me what is important in life which is why I work so hard each day for my wife and family.

Having a bad day? A hug will make it better.

We all have those days we wish we could just start over. Instead of getting upset, think about the wonderful things in your life. In the big picture, those things are really nothing. They are small obstacles.

When I am having a bad, I look at a picture of my wife, or in most cases, I reach out for her embrace. A hug is a powerful thing. No matter what the issue might be or the pain you are experiencing, a hug takes away everything. Why? Maybe a hug is somewhat hypnotic because it creates a bubble of security around you for that brief moment in time. Its powers are so strong as its embrace penetrates the soul so one may forgive, love, heal, or believe.

It can be thought of as a type of kryptonite. Even the most harden of people fall weak to it arms. A hug is something special, so take the time to hug your family. Kiss your spouse and hug them when they are having a bad day.

In the end, sometimes words are not needed, just a hug.

What is the right choice?

Very simply….

Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong it is not a hard thing to do. I would never dishonor my wife ever. In everything I do I ask myself, “would my wife approve if I……”

I never put myself in a position where it would make myself or my spouse feel uncomfortable. If you are married or in a dedicated and committed relationship, flirting is NOT ok with someone else ever. It is hurtful and dishonest. More than anything it shows how much you actually do not respect the other person or their feelings.

A job is simply a job. You pay bills. Nothing more. Should you like it? Absolutely. Your family and spouse should be what you eat, breathe, and sleep for everyday. It’s not about you anymore, it is about the other person who is busting their ass for you because they are deeply and passionately in love with you. Reciprocate that love and passion. They deserve it.

In the end, take a hard look at who you are because you may not like what you see if you do an honest assessment of your self. You committed your life to that other person, so make sure you tell them and show them how much you love them.

I love my wife. She is the greatest gift I have ever received. It is an honor to have her trust me with her heart, and as her husband, I will do everything in my power to preserve that trust.

Is is ok to be selfish?

Each person has their own perspective about the life they want to live. As we grow older we start to mature and other factors must be considered.

Is it ok to be selfish? The answer lies within. You have to decide what things are most important in your life. What things are you willing to give up for your family and your future? We want to be successful professionally, and we want to be successful personally. In other words, the single most important thing to me is being a great husband. I refuse to let my wife and kids down. The rest is just icing.

Do I want to be successful in my professional life? Absolutely! However, in my decision I have to factor in things like how much time will I miss with my wife and kids? Will this job divide our relationship or bring us closer together? Will the income help sustain us long term and help us reach our financial goals? Will I be happy and feel like I am making a difference?

While I may seek the professional opinion of the people I trust, I rarely reach out to anyone. Instead, I seek the advice of my wife. The way I look at it is that she will always be honest, and good or bad, I will get the feedback I need to make a decision. Ultimately, she is who I have to answer too.

So, it is ok to be selfish, but you must make your decisions with some restraint and caution. What looks like a good thing could end up being a very bad decision. Unilateral decision making is rarely the best way to go, but you know you better than anyone. Seek out advice and take it into consideration. Do not be forced into a decision you do not want to make. Instead, weight out the pro’s and con’s, make a list of any questions or concerns, and discuss them in a constructive manner. Most of the time you will come to a solid decision.

In the end, we get one shot at our life. Make the most of it personally and professionally. Weigh out the options and move forward without regret.

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