I recently found myself in a conundrum. I love to give advice, solve problems, and listen, but I have had to look at myself and take my own advice. While I have the unique ability to see things other people cannot while providing a road map to make them better, I had to follow my own advice, which is sometimes the hardest thing to do. We each seek to be better than the day before, but we do not always know which path to take.
For years I have always felt like a failure in my own life. Not because I have not accomplished a lot, but because I have always felt like I was missing something. I could never put my finger on it, and I looked to blame others for the way I felt. In reality, it was on my shoulders, it was my burden to carry. I needed to change the path I was on. Now, my conscious is free, but there was a lot of damage left behind. I live life to the fullest, trying to make each day better than the day before. Some days are rough, we all have those days where we wish we could rewind the hands of time, but I am trying to take a step back, think about what is going on, and base my decisions on reason and sensibility, rather than emotion. Do not get me wrong, I was never an evil person, I just made some bad choices in my relationships. I always knew the right thing to do, I just didn’t do it.
I found myself reading an article by Joshua Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, who are known as, the minimalist, titled, “Your Own Advice is the Hardest Pill to Swallow.” They believe it is easy for anyone to take advice because most people do not want to take a hard look in the mirror and ask themselves the hard questions, knowing they already know the answers. Instead, it is easier to ask someone else. However, you know you better than anyone. It is easier not to think, and let others tell us what to do. It is an interesting perspective I believe, but some times we just don’t know what to do. Some people lack the instinctive ability to grasp the seriousness of a situation and act on it. This is when a professional or a friend can help. They might see something you do not, and they might provide an unconventional solution no one else has thought about.
Everything I have written in the blog, I believe in to my core. I believe and standby the words of every article, and I hope they have encouraged people to think more about who they are and the selflessness of life. Lying in any form is not acceptable. Not living your life in an honorable manner is not acceptable. Not keeping your word is not acceptable. Not having integrity is not acceptable. What is acceptable is being true to you, always improving, building relationships that are most important, learning something new, loving with all your heart, treating people with respect, and being there in times of need.
So what does all this mean? When you reach a point where you are struggling, take a good hard look in the mirror and look at the kind of person you are being. Most of the time you know what to do, you just need someone to confirm those thoughts or feelings. Be honest with yourself, then, take action to be who you want to be. Anyone can be average, seek to be above average. Robert Frost wrote, “I shall be telling this with a sigh, Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverge in a wood, and I- I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.”