One of the worst traits anyone can have is to be labeled a liar. There is nothing more disgraceful or dishonest. Your word should be your bond. When you look someone in the eyes, and you give them your word, mean it. Liars are the lowest people on the earth in my opinion. They have no back bone, integrity, ethics, or morals. They are a disgrace to their family, their country, and they represent the lowest life forms in the universe. They are useless, and I do not have the time or tolerance for those people.
Why is lying acceptable? It could be our culture tolerates it. We have all lied to someone in our lives for a wide variety of reasons, and there is no excuse for it. However, it comes down to what we learned from that experience. I have made many mistakes, hurt many people, and there were times I just didn’t care. I do not claim to be perfect. What I am saying is time creates opportunity, vision, and clarity in our lives. Sometimes we have to loose the most important things in our lives before we can see the things we need to change the most. Life is hard enough and when we hurt the ones we love the most, two things will happen, you will either continue to take advantage of them or you will correct your behavior and be a better person. Take responsibility for your actions, and do whatever it takes to prevent the unacceptable behavior from happening again.
There are a variety of views about lying. Some see lying as harmful and self-interest, while others see it as an acceptable behavior when you are trying to protect someone’s feelings or get out of a relationship, as long as you are always honest with yourself. The only time you should lie would be in a life or death situation in my opinion. At that point, you have to do whatever it takes to keep you alive, no exceptions. Otherwise, be honest because you would want someone to be honest with you. Honesty builds trust. As I previously discussed in one of my other articles, trust is the foundation for most relationships, when it is lost, you may never get it back. Without a doubt, lying is the number one killer of trust. Look at any type of conflict and you will see when one party lies to the other, trust is completely lost. I know there will be many of you who will disagree with me, and we all live by a different set of rules. My way, may or may not be your way, and it is ok. We just can’t be friends or colleagues.
What is the Solution? Tell the truth no matter the circumstances. The other person may not be happy at the time, but they will respect you more later on down the road. Most people appreciate someone being honest with them instead of trying to hide the truth. Sometimes you have to be brutally honest with people because they just don’t get it other wise. Think about how you would feel in the same situation and let your morals and ethics guide you.