There is usually a huge lack of communication in most conflicts. This stems from people being hard headed or set in their ways to listen to the others involved. Each stake holder has a different perspective, and their situations are dictated by their life experiences. Issues such as: cultural identity, background, social engagement, psychological and emotional issues, and outside forces influence decision making capabilities.
The biggest problem we face is a lack of communication in our lives. We expect others to know what we need and what we want, when in reality, I have to make the effort to explain my point of view or bad things can happen. This is especially true in relationships, if we are not consistently discussing and working on our communication, it can be seen as not making an effort or losing interest, when in reality, this is not the case. For example: if you are in a long distance relationship with the end goal of trying to be together, and you say you are trying to find a job, but there are no real results, this could lead the other person to believe you do not care about them or their future. Then you start to fight about the little things, and these little things become big things, ultimately leading to mistrust or arguments that never should have occurred. Then these arguments lead to saying things that are damaging to the relationship. You place blame on one another, you call each other names, and you start to hate one another.
How do we fix it? Be honest and open in all your dealings with your significant other, boss, or friends. It takes a life time to build a solid circle around you, but it takes only seconds to destroy the entire thing. Once you lose that trust it is hard to gain back, if ever. One of my good friends once told me, be honest, tell the truth, and do the right thing, its not hard and it has a lot of weight with people. They may not like all you have to say, but they will know you are always honest. Life is not easy, so why make it harder than it needs to be. Take responsibility for your actions, live life to the fullest, and love with all your heart.