How To Deal With Feeling Overwhelmed.

Bill’s, relationships, kids, and work are just a few of the day to day issues each of us must face. It is easy to become overwhelmed. When we get frustrated we start to take that frustration out on everyone else, especially our loved ones. So what does it mean to be overwhelmed? Everyone’s tolerance level is different. Some can handle a few tasks a time, others only one. Add the stress of a new job or living pay check to paycheck, then every situation becomes a mountain.
TEAM- Together Everyone Accomplishes More.

-Ask for help. The people you are pushing away are the very ones who want to be by your side.

-Exercise. It will make you feel better, and help you clear your mind

-Turn to your spouse. They are your best friend. Bounce ideas off each other and constantly strive to support and speak to each other in a nurturing manner.

-Meditation. Sit, think, and relax. This will help you make sense of things and give you purpose in your actions.

-Remain focused.

-Make a list of pro’s and con’s. Have a friend or your spouse do the same, see what ideas you come up with and compare the list. You may end up having more in common that you thought, or a new idea is might be born.

-Get some rest.

-Make a list of things to get done then divide and conquer.  

In the end, if you have someone who loves you deeply and passionately, work together as a partnership and resolved the issues that are making you feel overwhelmed. There is no need to face things alone. “Teamwork makes the dream work”


Warrior Games- We Salute you

June 30th through July 8th are the warrior games. This event is specifically for wounded warriors to compete against one another. These warriors suffer from brain stem injuries, amputations, severe burns, and other wounds. The program was tailored after the Paralympic style games, and it proves life can continue after being injured. Every 65 minutes a veteran commits suicide. That is roughly 22 per day. These games give each athlete a way to bring back the fighting spirit that each one has inside of them. From my family to each and every member of the warrior games and to every Vet that may read this……. Thank You for your service! You are an inspiration to every American.


My Wife

She is the most incredible woman in the world. Her smile lights up my heart, her hugs bring comfort when I am having a bad day, and her kiss sweeps me off my feet. Her love is like nothing I have ever had in my life. She is smart, hard working, and beautiful inside and out. Today, I want you to know my love how much I appreciate you, and all you do. I love you.


When Your Spouse is having a Bad Day

There are those days that no matter what you do, you are going to be wrong. Let’s be honest, we all have had a bad day. You wake up grumpy and fussy, and no matter how well intended the actions of your spouse may be, you get more agitated. To make matters worse, we take them extremely personal, and it makes things even worse. It could be hormonal, insecurity, or just having a generally bad day.

 

Relationships are partnerships. You are committed to one another. You do not threaten one another, call names, or put each other down. Instead, you become the rock the other person needs. The most successful relationships have several common factors. Marissa Laliberte, author of 11 Signs You Can Trust Your Partner, believes you should be open and vulnerable. When you or your spouse are having a bad day, you just need to sit back and listen to them vent. No matter the topic, just listen. It seems as though active listening is a lost art form, and more couples are willing to give in and throw away their relationships.

 

Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and author of The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference, believes being able to be honest and open about your feelings is one of the biggest signs you can trust one another. When a person is allowed to express their feelings and concerns without judgement and without being put down, it brings you closer as a couple. “Openness and vulnerability in conversation—their willingness to really open up their heart and share what they’re really thinking, even if it puts them at risk for ridicule and being criticized for you—that is a scary thing in a lot of relationships.” “There’s trust if they’re willing to talk about things, give you details, sometimes share additional details, and have no hesitations,” says Pepper Schwartz, PhD, co-author of Snap Strategies for Couples: 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls. Go out of your way to put them at ease because it shows you care enough about them to put them first. They are a priority to you, and it is a significant show of intimacy.

 

If it hormonal………………………. GOOD LUCK! Nothing, and I mean nothing you do is going to be right. Just suck it up, and go above and beyond. Just say yes dear, I love you, how can I make your day better.

 

Study your spouse every day. Learn what their expectations are, and what makes them happy and sad. Be careful how you articulate things. Admit when you are wrong. If you make a mistake, big or small, just admit to it. It shows you are responsible. Furthermore, it shows you are not afraid to let the other person in, and it goes a long way to show you are not lying and hiding things.

 

If insecurity is a reason, then you have to work together and really take the extra step and let them know how much you love them. When you are driving or when you are not able to check your phone, ask your significant other to answer it, or check to see if there are any messages. It goes to show they can trust you because you have nothing to hide. You could switch phones for a week or two. It will go a long way to develop trust.

 

In the end, just be sympathetic. When we have a bad day, we say things we really do not mean. No need to take it personal, just make sure you apologize, and tell them how much you love them. Just ride it out, and remember tomorrow is a new day. There are no excuses, so take responsibility for your actions. Do something sweet and romantic for them to show them you care. Run a bath, fix dinner, candles, soft music, leave little notes or flowers. It is the little things that mean the most.


Expecting Something In Return

This is an interesting article about family dynamics. Sometimes we get caught up in life and forget family is a team dynamic. You and your spouse are in a partnership. Things get done because they need to get done. Some people expect a “thank you” for their hard work around at home. In reality, it is your obligation to your spouse and family to get things done. However, a simple kind word makes you feel good, and it goes a long way. It makes you want to work harder for your spouse. I always work hard, but when she tells me how thankful she is of the things I do, it makes me feel appreciated. I know she feels the same way when the roles are reversed. However, I agree with the authors reasoning in the article to some degree. I like what he has to say about it being your job to get things done at home because you live there, but I think leading by example and teaching manners makes common sense as well. Think about it, and spark a discussion with your significant other.

https://ladiespassiton.com/2017/06/12/i-do-not-help-my-wife/


Who am I? The Man Who……

My last post was about why men should love and appreciate their other half. Today’s post is why woman should love and appreciate a good man with all their heart. Of course this is only from my perspective, but if I can paint that picture for you, then maybe you will see things from the lens of your man. I would also suggest you look at Dale Partridge posts about relationships. They will bring you closer and make you stronger. Conflict is in every aspect of life, so we have to learn to communicate in manner that is respectful and tolerant, even when we get upset. As always… to Stef.

 

Who am I?

-the man you deserve and waited your whole life to meet

-the man you have dreamed of marrying

-the man who will always treat you with respect

-the man who will always honor you

-the man who spoils you

-the man who knows your weaknesses and never takes advantage of them

-the man who knows your strengths and uses them to your advantage

-the man who will always wake up every single day and fall in love with you again

-the man that will always appreciate you

-the man who will always love you

-the man who will be good to you

-the man who will always push himself to be better than the day before for you

-the man who will not accept failure because failing you is not an option

-the man who will grow old with you and take care of you in this life and the next

-the man who cannot believe every day when he wakes up how lucky he is you are in his life

-the man who treats your heart like delicate rose pedals, providing nourishment, being very careful to never cause you harm

-the man who appreciates every hug, kiss, and word from your lips

-the man who can close his eyes, reach out and draw your face and every inch of your body

-the man who knows has something very special

-the man who will spend the rest of his life proving to you that his love will never falter

-and the man who looks into your eyes, where he sees hope, a future, and true love

 

In the end, it is all about you, my best friend, my love, and my wife.

 

 


Why Men Should Appreciate Their Other half……

 

You should appreciate your other half because:

 

-they put up with your mouth

-they take care of you when you are sick

-they are stronger than you

-if she is pregnant, she made a lung, heart, fingers, limbs…. And you…. Right, nothing!

-they cook

-they clean your clothes

-they listen to you complain when you are having a bad day.

-they are delicate inside and out, but can be as tough as barbed wire if needed.

-they keep us in line when are unable to do so

-they look more and more beautiful as each day passes

-they are understanding and compassionate

-they are kind

-they put things into perspective

-they love you even when you probably do not deserve it

-they take pride in the way they look

-they pour their heart and soul into the relationship

-they appreciate the small things

-they are nurturing

-they are passionate

-they are driven

-they are strong

This list doesn’t begin to scratch the surface as to why men should appreciate their other half, but it does show that woman are more well-rounded and mature than men. Thank you for all the hard work and dedication.

 

 


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